Boring is as boring does.

There is nothing worse than a boring person – you know ones known to empty out rooms causing a boredom epidemic around them!

There are common traits that define the bore – the first being talking too much and although zipping it is one of the easiest fixes for boorish behaviour, they just can’t help themselves!  The concept of listening more and talking less isn’t on their radar, not even a consideration – it’s a 'me' 'me' 'me' attitude and positive engagement is alien. 

However, talking too much is often a backhanded sign of social awkwardness with the continuous jibber jabber being a constant drone.  Droning is dull.  Nothing is more boring than monotony, and that does not only pertain to the topic of conversation.

Boring people are complacent.  They have forgotten what it feels like to approach things with a new, and open perspective which makes them even more incredibly boring. Their content of conversation is banal, repetitive, tedious. predictable and normally focuses on the negative, usually complaining, always self-centred and normally creating nothing but misery.  And let’s face it misery loves company a lot more than boring does!  It is just a shame that company does not welcome misery or boredom!

However interestingly the bore does try to be funny or nice to impress others.  But other than that, humour is lacking as is their ability to demonstrate the cognitive flexibility needed isnt there.  The ability to assess an idea or an event from a variety of perspectives, and then, naturally, make light of it doesn’t come easy as boring people lack the ability concentrating more on moaning, being banal and negative.- That is their world – their limitation!

Another thing to watch out for is they never put their phone down, perhaps fearful they are going to miss anything by keeping that boring conversation killer in their pocket or on the side and actually making eye contact or listening to others.

The ironic thing is that boring people can't tell if others are engaged in the conversation because they are not really bothered – they have their own self agenda continually blathering and ignoring of signals and body language that say (perhaps not loudly enough) 'I am not interested in what you're saying.

They always do the same thing, a life without variety lacking diverse experiences which naturally improve one's conversation providing them with the tools to actually have something to talk about isn’t present.  Regrettably, you will learn nothing new from a bore.

Boring people are usually those who cannot (or won't) understand how the conversation is experienced from the other person's perspective.  Emotional intelligence is key to conversationalist which clearly lacks.

They have zero interests outside of work making them super dull and seem to live in the past and never wish to expand their personal horizons being stuck in that repetitive rut.

Dull, dreary, and not very good company in any circumstance are some of the reasons to avoid a boring person but also boring people are pretty bad on the empathy scale, always failing to see things from someone else’s point of view. Their world begins and ends at their front door and place of work ensuring that the chance to go out and experience a modicum of empathy for anyone else is sadly, low at best.  Never plan to have a breakdown or be ill in the presence of a bore –you will have no support whatsoever!

The same routine, day in day out. Is there anything more depressing? Well, for the boring person, they never consider trying something new or expand their horizons. They wake up at the same time every day, eat the same stuff, do the same stuff, and just never want to change anything, even down to having something different for breakfast that day.  They thrive on routine and like to try and get everyone involved in their level of boredom stating we should in every statement - do they realise how numbing and boring they really are?

No - never!

Conclusion; Being with a bore is nothing but boring! But be warned you may become a bore too!